Taking Responsibility for Birth During Your Pregnancy
Taking responsible for your own choices means becoming informed about all of your options including where to give birth, who to have present, any tests, screenings and interventions, etc.
It’s best to avoid all unnecessary tests, screenings and interventions and you won’t know which ones are “unnecessary” if you don’t know what each test or screening is or whether it carries unacceptable risk to you and/or your baby. A good place to begin is A Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer. She shares what your care provider may not tell you about prenatal tests and screenings.
What tests, screenings, exams, etc are normally done by your chosen provider during pregnancy? Have no idea? Ask for a list and begin to research every single one.
You are the only one who knows if you want any of the “standard” tests/screenings completed during your pregnancy. Currently, all tests, screenings, exams, etc are optional in the United States when using the man-made baby delivery system™. Pay attention to what’s happening in your state because there are people working to make some of these things mandatory when choosing even the midwifery model of care.
As of today, Midwives in some states are required to do cervical exams or lose their license to practice midwifery. This is a parental rights issue and a violation of your human rights. It’s also why there is a rising number of couples choosing to freebirth. Get involved!
Checking On Baby
As you go to your prenatal visits or as you do your own prenatal self care, you will want to know how the baby is doing. There are many ways of monitoring the baby. Some are more invasive than others and some may actually introduce undesirable harm to the baby.
What are some ways of monitoring the baby? Make a list. Research them all.
What may be the risks of some of the ways we monitor the baby?
What are the benefits of monitoring the baby?
Embracing Birth™ Scenario
The following scenario may help you discover what, if anything, scares you about birth:
Pretend that it’s close to your estimated due date and you’ve settled in for a wonderful and relaxing evening when the birthing process begins. However, there has been a catastrophic event, like COVID-19, and you will not be able to reach your chosen birth place nor will anyone be able to reach you for assistance. Do you know enough about birth to know you and your baby will be okay?
If not, what concerns do you have?
Your assignment is to list your concerns on a separate piece of paper. Please don’t focus only on what things “could” or “might” happen during the birthing process but include anything from your past that might effect you during the birthing process. Consider:
- Do you know how you came into the world?
- What is your personal birth story?
- Are there any traumas, abuses, molestations, assaults, etc in your past?
- What has happened to someone else when they were giving birth that scares you?
If you have a birth partner who will complete this journey with you, please have that person complete this assignment as well. Discuss each concern with each other and then research the concern. If there is anything on your list that you don’t feel comfortable sharing with your birth partner, please discuss it with someone who can help you work through it.
As you go through your list, ask yourself if you will be able to handle the situation on your own. If so, how will this be accomplished? If not, what will you need or who will need to be involved if this situation occurred?
What can you do to Embrace Birth™ more than you do right now?
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