I am a professional writer, wife to an engineer (that’s more important to know than you may think…), mother of 9 (yes, NINE), singer, truth seeker and truth teller.
I write from the heart and from my own experiences. I’ve earned 2 degrees and a variety of certifications NONE OF WHICH taught me even half of what I’ve learned simply living my life…and taking note of what’s worked for me and what hasn’t. I call those “notes” golden nugget lessons.
I write about being Strong, feeling Worthy, speaking Authentically, and Nurturing yourself because you matter in this world. You have an important role to play and a specific group of people to serve. You cannot do either if you are stuck in your head, in your past, and dreaming about a future you think you can never create.
About BE-ing Strong
BE-ing strong isn’t just about your physical strength. It’s also about Be-ing strong mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s about picking yourself up over and over and over again. It’s about stepping forward into the unknown path, or continuing on your chosen known path even though others think it’s a “bad idea” or that you’re “wasting your time.”
Nothing that has already been accomplished happened without BE-ing strong. Strong willed, strong in mindset, and the willingness to be alone if necessary. When driven toward a dream, an “impossible” desire, you will experience pushback, obstacles of all kinds, doubt, wondering and wandering. These and many other obstacles are certainties. They are the stuff that you must get through, over, around, and/or under in order to prove to yourself that you are serious.
About Feeling Worthy
It’s — in my opinion — far too common for one to feel unworthy. The feeling of unworthiness usually comes from your childhood experiences. People can be intentionally mean and cruel. They are more often UNintentionally mean and cruel. Sadly, the result is the same.
If you’ve experienced any harmful criticism, berating, belittling, demeaning, etc, you will feel unworthy of many of the good things in this world. This is because you haven’t experienced them before. They’ve been withheld or have felt elusive to you in the past and this leads you to think (and, sadly, believe) that you are not worthy of having or experiencing the wonderfulness of life.
About Speaking Authentically
Like most, you have learned to keep your opinions to yourself and to hide your dreams, and desires from the world. You’ve silenced yourself in an effort to “keep the peace” and not “rock the boat” or “stir the pot.” The fact is that sometimes speaking up is what keeps the peace AND at times the boat needs to be rocked and pot must be stirred.
You feel an aching inside; a knowing that you have something great to offer the world and those around you. Your voice has been silenced for so long that you even struggle to hear your own voice. You wonder if anyone cares what you have to say. Your voice counts even among the billions of other voices. You have a tribe and they are waiting to hear from you.
About Nurturing Yourself
For some reason, our world teaches us all that it is not okay to take care of your own needs first. Or, at least, that’s what so many believe. The truth is that you cannot tend to nor fully love those around you until you tend to and fully love yourself. This requires making time for you.
You may think that you need so much nurturing that there aren’t enough hours in the day for it. Start. It only requires that you start. Perhaps you’ll start by waking before everyone else to simply lie in bed and enjoy the silence. YES, as the mother of 9, I will attest to the fact that THAT (enjoying silence) can absolutely be part of nurturing yourself!
What will you do TODAY to be a S.W.A.N.?